November 24, 2004

Pushkar-ed

My weekend. I don’t even know when to begin. Please note none of the pictures are my own.
The conference went well. Interesting. I learned much about my organization and about how stressed I can get under pressure..even in India. Being on the report writing team was more work then I first thought. Oh well, I must type at least 5 words more per minute now. We left for Pushkar on Saturday at 6 (Pushkar is a town righton the border of the desert of Rajasthan). We were late. Ethel and I actually had to run along side the train and jump up. It was quite exciting. Luckily Jen was already on the train. Another expensive chair car ride. But the fast trains =the rich trains and when you only have 2 days you have to maximize your time. Our train went to Ajmer and then from Ajmer we took a local bus up and down the hills to Pushkar. I forgot how much I love taking the 7 rs. bus rides on the rickety old buses sitting next to old women and hoping that the bus driver can actually somehow turn the enormous clunker past the bus coming from the other way without launching us down the side of the hill.

Pushkar itself, while being absolutely flooded with pilgrims and tourists (another form of pilgrimage I wonder?), still gave off a personality of being laid-back and serene. On our first day in town, after squeezing out of our bus like sardines (not that I’ve ever seen sardines packed in a can, but I believe it’s apophthegmatic) while the bus attempted to take off. I had this little boy in front of me, I thought he was going to be trampled, or ran over. We found a nice hotel with a very relaxed laid back tie-die sarong wearing owner and headed into town for something to eat. Now, Pushkar is attempting to serve all sorts of visitors. There are hippie store upon hippie store selling Bob Marley paintings, hippie clothing (even some retro 1960s), hash pipes (these are also for the Sadhus), bongs, costume jewelry, India t-shirts, rave music, and etc, etc. For the pilgrims and locals: bangles, coloured powder, camel gear (whips, straps, etc.) shoes, etc. There were as many local whole in the wall canteens as there were hippie places (roof top restaurants, garden restaurants with bolsters and etc.) After eating we attempted to head towards the camel fair, not sure how far away it was. (as a side note, Pushkar is home the most famous and fantastically huge camel fair each year. Pushkar is on the base of the Rajasthan desert and as such, historically, was the last stop to pick up a camel. So, naturally a fair started where men could come and look and buy camels. Women were also bought and sold with camels at this time. Eventually, after the influx of hippies in the 70s the fair became much more commercial. However, each year people still come from all around to buy and sell camels) Walking the long way around we came across it – camels and brightly turbaned Rajasthani men as far as the eye can see. Seriously surrounding us for miles until the border of the hills on one side, town on the other and the rolling ever-reaching desert on the other there were camels. I do have to note that donkeys, the most stunning horses and other livestock were also being shown.

We wandered amongst the camels and men for hours. The girls were very keen on having a camel ride and we found a great “champion” camel and a sweet “driver” to take us. I got to steer the camel around the site and, yes, I have to admit, I did ride the camel for a while. But I was only that touristy for the view from the tall camel…yah…that’s it. I really can’t explain how weirdly fantastic the fair was. Close to the mela fair grounds are rides and a schedule of events (including a very strange mutation – a bridal fair where foreigners dress up in traditional Rajasthani wedding gowns) these events diminish the nostalgic and magically quality of the actual fair and obviously cater to the Indian and foreign tourists. But, they’re still fun.

On Monday we went down to the ghats (steps down to the lake).The town is a devotee of Lord Brahma and holds the only Brahma temple in the world (?)(it is believe that he dropped a lotus flower on the ground during the full moon and from them lake grew) and each year during the November full moon the place is at it’s most auspicious. This pilgrimage just happens to coincide with the camel fair (perhaps it was a “kill two birds with one stone” for the camel raising hindus in the past). The ghats are lined with temples of all sorts and the ghats were flooded with brightly dressed pilgrims bathing in the holy water. Although it’s lost much of it’s relevance due to the “tourist trap” I performed a puja for my family tossing flowers, rice, sugar and red powder into the lake. (hope it works guys!)


This email is getting quite lengthy so I’ll end it here. The rest of the weekend was filled with shopping, chatting, eating and just wandering around. The town was awesome and I really hope to get a chance to return. I leave for Bombay on Nov. 26 at 11am for a few days of traveling (by myself – eeek) then my colleague is joining me for the conference until December 3. I’ll stay in Bombay until the 5th since Georgia is volunteering at a film festival from the 2nd through and it is her birthday on the 4th. So wish me luck!!! Unfortunately, as I’ve mentioned before, family, I don’t know how I’ll be able to send Christmas presents home in time for the occasion. I feel so bad and sad that you guys won’t have anything to open from me at Christmas time. But I’ll keep mailing things periodically and, as you know, I’ll be bringing home the balk of presents for when I get home. Think of it….Christmas in July.

Love you guys.

p.s. everyone vote in the “what I should be when I grow up” poll. I can’t make decisions on my own..you know that.

November 17, 2004

What should I be when I grow up?

what should I pursue when I get back to Canada
Nurse
Non-profit
WCB
ESL teacher in Taiwan
Masters in Socio-Cultural Anthropology
Get married and have lots and lots of babies
other
none of the above - stay over seas and work forever.
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tikka, whiskey, fireworks oh my!

Hi folks,
Sorry I haven’t emailed any of you back! So busy! I have this Vision Building Workshop all week and related dinners all night so this will be my last internet access for awhile.

How was Diwali? It was awesome! I don’t know where to start. The city’s excitement, fireworks, Christmas lights, everything just skyrocketed. On Diwali eve I went to Ronnies and had some good non-veg and beer with some friends. On Diwali it was Ronnies place again. Many of his friends that live in the same building are bachelors, too poor to travel all the way home for Diwali, so we were all in the same boat. Anjali (Ronnie’s finance) finally got back after her property dispute and she helped us attempt to do a puja. It was really wonderful having our own little puja and although I feel a bit bad since I’m not a hindu I even got to do the tikka. We lit off some fireworks and watched the rest from the rooftop of Ronnie’s building. It was amazing the sky was absolutely littered with fireworks. So much that the sky was completely thick with smoke. I went for a motorcycle ride later in the evening (to get the bottle of Canadian Whiskey I brought from home – figured it was the perfect occasion to break it open) and it was absolutely amazing to be riding down the Christmas lit-up streets with fireworks bursting around me. Anyway I’m horribly ineloquent today and I need to run. Just wanted to give you folks a taste of what dewali was all about.

So I have this vision building workshop all week and than on Saturday I’m heading to Pushkar for the camel fair. I’ll be back on Tuesday morning. Thursday I leave for Bombay and my flight back isn’t until December 3 so I won’t have much time to email. Take care guys!!!

And answer the poll! (see above)

Love yah

November 11, 2004

Diwali Madness

Hi folks!
HAPPY DIWALI!!! Delhi has completly exploded in celebration (think Christmas + tinsle + candles + all the rituals on speed!) The shops have thrown up on the streets, everyone is out to all times at night. Colours, lights, fireworks, crackers...everywhere! I have tomorrow and monday off and then the Vision Building workshop!

So to all of you, HAPPY DIWALI and a happy new year!

p.s. i got a bunch of wonderful letters in the mail in the last few days! I love them! I promise they'll be ones coming to you shortly!

Love yah!

November 09, 2004

"He's a Jones"

It’s night time, I’m listening, watching the fireworks and crackers along side the sounds of distant drums, music, excited children and the usual nocturnal dogs and beeping horns.

Finishing my what, third, PowerPoint presentation in 30 days? Work is feeling more and more like those distant pre-diwali sounds – I understand it, I know what’s going on but I’m so far from the people it affects I can’t even count it as an experience.

It has been two months. I’m falling into a groove (maybe more of a pothole), with everything. I stopped noticing the three story house being built with the arms of the sinewy men as they balance on the bamboo twine-tied scaffolding and with bricks that women have baked in the sun and carried on their heads. I walked by today, like I do every day and made eye contact with a man on his hunches taking a brief rest (to feel more ashamed – with my recent men problems the first thing that came to mind was “don’t make eye contact, he might get the wrong idea”), his face was tired but also accomplished. It was only then I actually noticed that the brick walls were up and the cement had been dried around the windows, floors and doors. The last time I bothered looking, the basic structure was barely being defined.

Delhi has grown in the last couple of weeks and I haven’t taken notice. I’m ignorant.

I think there are different ways to become self-absorbed – sometimes one becomes preoccupied with how one is relating to the world (i.e. friends, family, coworkers, strangers, environment, and the rest) and sometimes one becomes preoccupied with how the world is relating to oneself. I guess both allow a certain level of self-discovery but obviously, I think the less absorbed, more open-eyed and open-minded (clearly the less self-centered) is the former. Unfortunately, I’ve been worrying about the latter – i.e. Is Delhi/India treating me right?

First I got the Diu Belly, than a really horrible plaguing head-cold. Both made me feel sorry for myself. I also made the mistake of making Lokesh (my neighbor) feel like he was a friend / close to me. I introduced him to Arnav (Ronnie) and we went out for some food and drinks. I didn’t realize exactly how much status counted in this society, especially when it comes to rich little spoiled boys or how much I’m seen as a piece of property - a thing - not a person. Now I have someone monitoring my life. I learned my lesson, now I just have to figure out how to fix it. All this…I really thought all these things were just happening to me - I didn’t deserve them, I didn’t ask for them, it’s horrible. Then I realized Delhi’s not trying to change me, infect me or influence me, I need to be more proactive. I guess it’s that old “life doesn’t just happen, you gotta make it” thing. I’ve been saying that for awhile. When will I start listening to it? I’m so wrapped up in how I’ve been disappointed with things lately that it’s over shadowed the things I’ve been satisfied with. I don’t know. I’m rambling.

It’s Dewali this weekend and unfortunately I’m stuck in Delhi. But then again, Delhi is supposed to be the best place for such celebrations. We’ll see. I do know that the shops and stores have spilt out into the streets and that coloured “Christmas” lights are lighting up the nights.

The Vision Building Workshop is right after dewali. I have gotten most of my saris prepared for the dinner and cocktail parties. Oh yah, and my presentations are going well. It’ll be an interesting dynamic to have all the member associations for South Asia in one place - listening to our relatively new office preach about what should be done.

I also just found out I will be flying to Bombay to attend a conference on male responsibility with sexual reproductive health and family planning on the 28th of this month. It’s a very, very well known conference in this area and I’m excited to be attending even though the pessimistic part of me feels like I’m just a glorified recording device for my organization (in other words that they are just sending me because they need someone to take in the information and disseminate it to IPPF) but hey, it’s a free trip to Mumbai all expenses paid. What’s better than that?

On more negative news, my plans for traveling the south of India this Christmas have fallen through. Everyone that is capable of traveling at Christmas that I know is either going home or having their family come here. I’ll probably do a short trip for a few days but nothing like my 3 week holiday I thought I’d have. That makes me sadder then anything. I really wanted to see south India. I hate being in a country I love but not having independence to do what I want, when I want to.

Both criticisms and pick-me-ups are welcome.

Love you guys.

The one having a negative day,

michelle

November 01, 2004

Crystal Chandeliers

I promised I would write about last weekend’s Diu. Well, it was great; Beautiful, Portuguese, pretty beaches, big palm trees, moonlight swims, etc, etc, etc.

Something more recent: This weekend I went to an Indian wedding with my neighbor. It was amazing. The wedding was at the Marriott (a very rich, very beautiful hotel). I wore a black sari with a gold-sliver trim (very halloweenish :P) I had my hair up, lots of makeup, dangly earrings..it was crazy - but nice to get dressed up and enjoy myself in such lavish surroundings. I did feel a bit like “arm-candy” which is a feeling I never thought that I would ever experience but in truth I was there to watch and observe a wedding and I suppose I was objectifying the bride, groom and rituals as much as the same was happening to me.

Gotta get back to work. I really must make an effort to make this blog more interesting. I will. In the meantime you can take a look at my friends' blogs they are much more eloquent(re: interesting). Take care guys! I know I haven't emailed some of you guys for a long time. I know it doesn't seem this way but I've been really busy. I will get back to you so keep emailing!

Love